Law of Attraction? Or Browbeating. What's Your Style?

Hey. I know that there are still people out there who haven't gotten the "law of attraction" message. You know, the one where you attract people into your business by addressing their concerns, answering their questions, and offering solutions to their problems? Gently? With honesty, integrity, and trust?

Some people just haven't gotten the message.

Like yesterday.

I'm looking at a product that I hope will help some of my nagging, chronic, and sometimes debilitating health problems. My friend swears by it and offers great testimonials. I'm well versed in alternative treatments, and I recognize the product's possibilities.

And, she offers a position to me, for a fee I'm willing to pay, that will put me in her group with enough volume to pay for my product. A win-win.

But, my husband and I are involved in developing other businesses, selling our home (and taking a HUGE hit), and relocating from Florida to Virginia in the next few months. I'm willing to give a few hours a week to this new business, but no more.

Red flag! Should I really get this position? Let's three-way with her sponsor...

I really like my friend and value her low-key approach to her business. But her sponsor subjected me to an hour of browbeating. (Why I listened for an hour is another story.)

*network marketing only works face to face...online marketing doesn't work
*you don't need to spend money on coaching or marketing programs or, or, or... (I've loved my coaching with Bob Proctor, Mary Manin Morrissey, Ellie and Charlie Drake; and I've devoured all I can about marketing from the best)
*you need to focus all of your attention on THIS company
*you need to prove yourself to get this position
*you should consider going to convention in two weeks (half way across the country, when I've booked a T.Harv Eker seminar nearby)

Whew!

Now, I don't think Ms. Sponsor would normally have been so tough, so hard, or so, frankly, off-putting. I don't fault Ms. Sponsor for what I see as her protecting her protege who really shouldn't sell the position to someone who will let that leg of her business slide. After all, it's my friend's business, her livelihood. She's spent two years building to this point where she said goodbye to her W-2.

So, a warning. When you're looking for a home-based business, the people you work with are key. The products can be great, the training awesome, the compensation plan the best. The company can be top-notch...and there are a number of terrific companies on all counts.

But it's the people you work with on a daily basis that are key. Pay attention. Browbeating just doesn't fly in this day and age.

Let me know what you think and what you're experiences are.

And I'll let you know how this story ends.